Answer: [by Lucy Beresford] Adolescence is a time of huge experimentation, when teenagers start to forge their own identities and separate healthily from their parents. Some do this by ‘rejecting’ the values their parents represent. No matter what you say or do, your son is on a journey away from you. Trying to rein him in completely will only make him want to cast you off even more.
Adolescence is also about finding peer acceptance. What your son says about sex and to women may be what, deep down, he believes, or it may be what he believes he must say to remain accepted by the latest gang.